Navigating This Site

Tackling a topic as diverse and complicated as Divorce is a daunting task on the best of days.  When I set out to put what I've learned into a web site, I found myself faced with lot's of information and the challenge of presenting it in a form that makes sense and is relatively easy to navigate. 

 

While I have a complete site map online, I'd also like to take a minute to explain how I created the major sections so that you can figure out where you might want to start. 

 

As I've said before, my first goal is to help people NOT get a divorce.  With that said, I'd always like to see people start with the Saving Your Marriage section.  In that area, you'll find some frank information that just might help you decide to give your marriage one more chance.  If you have no idea where to start, please start with this section.

 

I've also found that people who visit this site are looking for other people to talk to, and so with this latest overhaul of the site, I've added a Message Forum section where you can post topics and share in discussions about relationships. 

 

So what if you're here because the divorce is already underway, or you know there is no chance for reconciliation.  If that's the case, and if you're a parent, please take a few minutes to visit the Protecting Your Children section.  Even the most conscientious parent may need a few reminders on how to keep your kids as healthy and happy as possible as you all go through this process.  And to be quite frank with you, some parents need a good solid slap upside the head during their divorce, because they get so wrapped up in their own feelings that they tread all over the top of everyone else around them, and the kids are often the first victim.

 

The Legal Process section is where you should look if you're looking for information specifically related to the actual legal process of dissolving a marriage.  While I'm sure i won't answer every question there, I think you'll find a lot of helpful information about how the legal process works.  Your life will be affected dramatically by the legal process, and you should make every effort to get yourself educated on the process so that you can avoid some of the most common pitfalls.

 

There are two sections, Just for Women and Just for Men that contain specific information directly targeted towards the issues that men and women might face as they go through the process.  Understand, I am not trying to foster a gender war here, but in some instances, men may have some specific issues that they need to face, just as women will also find some specific issues that they need to be aware of that are related just to them.

 

One thing people often overlook during this time is the physical and mental toll that a divorce can take on you.  With that in mind, the section on Protecting Your Health can help you give this some attention so that you minimize the overall negative impact on your well being that this time is causing you.  You may not believe it now, but this turmoil will eventually subside, and it's important to keep yourself healthy through it all so you can get back to enjoying life when this time has passed.

 

And once you've completed your divorce, you may want to turn to our section on Moving On With Your Life, which will help you down the path towards getting things put back together again.  In addition to some advice on just plain "picking up the pieces" and moving on, I've also got some important advice about Online Dating, which as you most likely are aware, is growing in acceptability and practicality as divorced adults head back into the "dating scene".  I also think it's important to spend some time working on your Financial Situation as you reconstruct your life after a divorce, and for some, this area of life may be something that the ex-spouse used to take care of.  Don't worry, you too can get your finances under control.

 

And in case you are curious, I put My Own Story here, just so you'll understand where I was coming from when I started this project.