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2011 and Beyond
I am basically an optimist, I tend to believe that good things will be coming along and I try to do what I can to make sure they do. With that in mind, I'm working through some changes to the section of the site specifically geared towards saving marriages.

From studying the patterns of the typical visitor to this site, it has become obvious that most people who visit are not yet divorced, and are looking for ways to avoid divorce, and so we're going to make sure if that's why you're here, you'll find what you need to help you be successful in your attempt to get through your whatever problems are affecting you right now.

If you find what you're looking for here, won't you help us spread the word? Send a link to a friend, mention us on your Facebook page, share a Tweet with someone. There's plenty of people out there who will thank you for sharing some positive information on this most negative of all subjects.

Understanding the legal process

When we get married, the legal process is usually one of the minor details of the whole thing. We're all excited about the future, and so we hardly pay any attention to the official paperwork that is required to get married. But when things go sour, the process becomes primarily a legal process. As with any legal process, no one in the process really cares much about your emotional health, this is a process of legally addressing the issues that are involved when a family breaks up. There are some critical components of the process that we'll address later in this section, but first, it's important to make sure you understand the options you have for actually getting the process completed.

What basically needs to happen is a legal court case needs to be processed through, official records need to be recorded with the court system, making sure that the public records get updated with the fact that your marriage is over and that the two of you are now separate individuals in all legal matters. Additionally, the family issues of custody of any children will also become a part of this legal record. You don't really have too many options about the document requirements and such associated with the process, it must be done legally and according to your state law. You may have some options though in terms of how you actually go about getting the process done.

The most common way most people get divorced is both parties retain the services of a lawyer, and then the lawyers do the actual process of creating the court case, preparing the appropriate documents and such, working through the process step by step until the process is complete and the divorce is final. However, in response to the rising number of divorces that courts are dealing with, many states are beginning to streamline the process or make it a "do it yourself" type thing. For instance, in Utah (where we're based) the entire process can be done without ever hiring a lawyer, using a self-service website. This process isn't for everyone, but if you're willing to do some work, you may be able to avoid the expense of hiring legal counsel.

Divorce doesn't always have to be viewed as war anymore either. In fact, along those lines, I discovered a really unique eBook written by a reformed "Killer" Divorce Attorney and a renowned Psychologist that has the unlikely title "Happily Divorced! Secrets of the Win-Win Formula". What a great concept! I'm a huge fan of the Win-Win approach, I use it in business on a daily basis and I think if we can use it in our personal lives, there is a lot less conflict and stress. I definitely recomment you check this one out!

Divorce Arbitration is becoming an increasingly popular alternative to the typical litigation based divorce.  With Arbitration, both parties agree to go through an arbitration process with Mediators as opposed to using Lawyers.  The main difference between arbitration and litigation is that arbitrators come at the process from the direction of cooperation and agreement between you and your spouse, as opposed to confrontation and legal maneuvering that Lawyers typically engage in.  Arbitration is typically much less expensive than retaining lawyers, in fact in many cases you’ll get one total price, quoted up front that will take you through the entire process.  When retaining a Lawyer, you'll typically find that most will only quote their hourly rate.  The amount of hours of billable time your divorce can generate then depends on the amount of battling and legal wrangling that takes place.  In short, Mediators will be looking at making your divorce a win-win situation.

The form we have below is one that you can use to get in touch with a local divorce lawyer. This initial consultation can be extremely useful in getting your questions answered, even if you aren't sure you're really ready to proceed with the divorce. If you'd rather pick up the phone than fill out the form, we have a dedicated number you can use. Just call 888-632-0567 right now and you'll find someone ready to get you in touch with a local lawyer who can talk to you.