Abuse Must Not Be Tolerated!

This is a difficult section to write about, but in the time I’ve been involved with this site, I’ve begun to learn that abusive relationships are a reality, and that many times they are ignored by people around them who should be getting involved. If you’re here, chances are you’ve found yourself in a relationship that has become abusive. There are many types of abuse, mental abuse, physical abuse, but whatever form you feel that you are in, there are some VERY important things that I want you to understand right now!

• You do NOT deserve to be abused, physically, mentally or both by the person you are married to.
• You do NOT need to remain in an abusive relationship.
• You are NOT alone, there are resources all over that are specifically geared towards protecting you, providing you with assistance as you get free of the abuse.
• You should take action TODAY to get yourself and your children safe.

Please understand though that I feel very strongly about this subject.  No person has the right to abuse another person, no matter what the circumstances.  You may feel trapped, you may feel that you have nowhere to turn for help, but in reality, that does not need to be the case.  Please don’t forget that you can call 911 if you need immediate help.

One thing I won’t do here is try to pass myself off as some kind of expert on this topic, even though I have very strong opinions on how wrong any kind of abuse is. But I have teamed up with people who are experts on this subject, one of which is Dr. Jeanne King. After her own personal encounter with domestic abuse, she turned her professional focus from bio-behavioral medicine to Domestic Abuse Intervention and Prevention. She now works with a team of professionals that are dedicated to helping people identify abuse, and then to break the cycle of abuse and begin the recovery process.

In the course of working on this site, I have corresponded with several people who came to this site looking for help and advice on how to fix or survive the abusive relationships that they are in.  In most cases, the victim feels trapped in the relationship, which is precisely how the abuser wants them to feel.  By maintaining financial and emotional control, the abuser is able to keep the abused locked in, with no apparent way out of the situation.  But there is a way out of any relationship, and if you are in this type of relationship, it’s absolutely CRITICAL that you believe that.  Below I have listed just a few of the national organizations that have been created to help you.  Please contact one of them immediately so that you can begin to remove yourself from this unhealthy situation.  You deserve to live a life filled with joy and happiness, and often that life is just one simple step away.

Ask for help! Make that first step and you’ll be one step closer to turning your life around.

Important Resources

• National Domestic Violence Hotline – A national hotline that you can call right now for help finding local resources.
  1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
• National Coalition Against Violence – A national organization that provides information and other resources to help end domestic violence.
• Stop Family Violence Organization – An informative site, heavily involved in taking political action to continue the battle against domestic violence.  If you want to help end violence, you should start by checking this site out.
• National Organization for Women – While this site is mostly dedicated to women’s issues in general, there is still a wealth of information here about domestic violence.
• Abused Adult Resource Center – Another site with lot’s of information and resources for anyone suffering from abuse.